The New Year effects folks in different ways. Some get excited to start over. Some get depressed because the past year has come to an end. Most people make resolutions that they end up breaking by…ohhhh Jan 8th? (I think that’s fair, right?) Mostly the New Year is a time for reflection of the good and bad over the past year. Although this could be dangerous I think it’s good to appreciate everything you’ve gone through in the past year. With this we can rebuild and reconstruct ourselves. I’m a firm believer in an onward and upward mentality.
At 34 years old I finally realize that those cliche New Years sayings and business sayings are all true. Now I don’t know if I’m getting sentimental as I get older (even though I’ve always been sentimental) or if I’m overcoming the affected cynicism of my twenties. I may also have a different attitude about work and life because I grew up in and still live in New York. I’ve always said this city could be a big balled fist of anger and anxiety one minute and then a paradise of awesome the next. I don’t have small town sensibilities – instead just a get out of my way attitude that I share with my friends who also grew up here. Is it douchey? Maybe. But that’s all we know. It’s not a malicious thing but New Yorkers have an inherent “keep it moving, buddy” attitude. Combine that with being a freelancer and the anxiety that comes with it means the sentimentality and cliche sayings kind of go out the window and hit you at once when you finally get some time to breathe. Maybe not the best way to live but that’s all we know sometimes – especially as a freelancer. We are driven, go go go, and need to get from project to project to survive creatively and monetarily.
I’ll be the first to admit that I was a bit overwhelmed toward the end of the year with project after project and some very extreme highs as well as some extreme lows. (You could associate being a creative freelancer with being a junkie. It’s feast or famine sometimes but we always want more and sometimes when things go wrong we take it personal and blame ourselves…big time.) However, I took the holiday break to consciously reflect on the past year and the things that went right and the things that went wrong. At first I was adamant about fixing mistakes going forward or not doing XYZ but doing ABC instead and it got to the point where my brain was eating itself because I didn’t have all the answers. I was creating unnecessary anxiety for myself and the New Year didn’t even begin! After a couple days of downtime and reading some excellent articles on wellness as a business owner/freelancer I decided to start from scratch as far as resolutions go and maybe throw them out the window. I decided to maybe try and adopt a different attitude toward things and think differently…maybe even think better.
Let Your Mind Go
Most of us unknowingly walk around thinking about the next thing and the thing after that with a furrowed brow deep in thought. If we let that tension and anxiety go it would lead to a clearer head and clearer thinking. It’s one thing to worry but it’s a completely poisonous thing to worry about the endless possibilities that could happen. Don’t sweat what you don’t have control over. Sometimes we need to surrender ourselves to the universe. That doesn’t mean to stop working and be a bum. It means just keep working hard at your thing, hone it, and know that good things will come your way.
No One Is Coming After You
We get so hung up on perceptions that it’s crazy. I think this is one major thing that separates leaders from the rest of the pack. They don’t worry what people think about them. As long as you’re not hurting anyone then who cares about thinking of the time you stumbled over your words at a meeting and causing yourself unnecessary anxiety. Own your self perceived flaws and move on. At the end of the day no one gives a shit and if they do then that means they’re a psychopath.
Mind Your Manners
You don’t have to engage with everything that upsets you. The best part of freewill is that you can just choose to go about your business without engaging anything! Instead of fueling your day with nonsensical anxiety and anger toward people or situations, why not just let it go and be as nice as possible. Genuinely killing people with kindness not only leads to soulful fulfillment but pretty much diffuses any situation. No one wants to be the one that yells at the nice guy.
Take Care Of Your Body
Work out a bit and stop eating like shit. You’ll feel better.
Work Harder, Smarter, Better
Sometimes we get comfortable and coast. Don’t do that. But don’t kill yourself either. Through experience you’ll find that the things you once did could be done a better more efficient way. If you really go through your routine you can fine tune things in a instant because you’ll be thinking about them for once instead of automatically doing them. Look at downtime as a blessing because you can take stock of what you’ve been doing and grow from that.
Remember The Love You Have
It’s not all about money. Money is nice. BUT money can’t replace your family, your spouse, your kids, or your roots. We get so stressed out during the day that we take that anger out on those closest to us. Instead we should find comfort in their proverbial arms while the outside world melts away. Chances are you wouldn’t be where you are without those people.
Be Firm But Don’t Be A Dick
All this talk of taking it easy and relaxing is fantastic but don’t let folks step on you. As a freelancer it can be hard to speak up sometimes. Lots of times clients or a client’s rep will speak to you as if they own your or as if they could do your job better than you can. Just firmly remind them why you were hired in the first place and if they persist then in a professional way just explain to them that their attitude leaves much to be desired. No harm no foul.
Be Who You Want To Be
What’s stopping you? Just the walls you put up yourself. Have confidence in the person you want to be or evolve into. All it takes is a bit of will power and good energy.
Send Positive Energy Outward
Take a deep breathe and exhale yourself into the universe. Just remember that you’re one being in an endless sea of space and time. You’re the only you. Spread joy, love, and positivity wherever you go. Folks will react in kind, situations will react in kind, and the universe will react in kind. Negativity and pessimism are the greatest anchors that we tow around. Let those anchors go and fly free.
Just chill out and everything is gonna be ok.
Anyway, that’s my two cents. Thanks for reading and have a happy new year guys!
(Book a shoot or two while you’re at it!)
“Rich was great to work with. Very responsive and professional, felt completely at ease having to arrange the photo shoot from across the country and leaving it in his hands to meet the clients requirements.”
“Rich is professional, reliable, creative, and prompt and I can’t recommend him enough. Not only did he deliver on what we had originally hired him for, but he was consistently seeking ways to make the photos look as great as possible. I was so impressed by his ability to deliver the quantity we needed with such high quality. We look forward to having him back for our photography needs.” – Alison. Univision
“Richard is extremely professional and has a great eye for photography. My firm hired him to take new headshots for our 25 employees and not only did he take the time to accommodate our hectic schedule by coming on two separate days, we received our shots (retouched and all) on the same day as the shoot and they came out great! We are all very happy with our new photos and can’t wait to show them off when we update our website. Richard made the entire process flow quickly and seamlessly, and greatly exceeded our expectations; he is an absolute pleasure to work with and a genuinely nice person on top of it, which is very rare to find these days. I cannot recommend Richard enough. ” – Jennifer. Aufgang Architects
“Richard is a gem! He is a skilled photographer, takes direction, captures exactly what you need and does so with grace and without intrusion. He is on time, follows up and delivers the photos as instructed. I literally leave him with my clients for the entire day. As an Account Executive in the event industry I sometimes have several events on the same day. I trust Richard implicitly.” -Alicia Schiro. Kapow Events
“Rich is amazing. One of the best you can hire. Nothing but positive things to say about him.” – Andrew Zarian GFQNetwork.com
“Richard is talented, professional and does incredible work with an amazing turnaround period. In fact, I was so impressed with his photo retouching abilities on images that I needed for a magazine shoot, that I also hired him to design postcards for an upcoming documentary.”
–Titania D. Grace
Licensed Master Social Worker & Author
“We hired Rich to do a four day job with a large client who needed photography for a large event. Rich knocked it out of the park with his work and we will be bringing him back next year for the same event.” – Bryan Pecelli. Marketing Genome
This post may almost be two weeks late but that’s OK. That’s what the internet is for. 2014 was so far the best year I have had professionally. I’ve met tons of great people, worked with some amazing folks, had some fantastic opportunities, and became a better shooter. I also adopted a very die hard can do attitude and a more positive lifestyle (which my wife calls “fucking postile” (Thanks Pantera!) – Aggressive positivity.) And yes I just used parenthesis within parenthesis (I’m the writer here and I make the rules!) I’ve also come to realize that as human beings we are nothing without each other and need to spread love and kindness whenever we can. Here are some things I learned in 2014 that I want to share with you guys that might help!
1) Positive thoughts lead to positive things.
It’s true. If you are constantly negative and cynical your life will reflect that. If you know your worth, know who you are, know why people like you, know what you’re good at then that’s what counts and concentrate on the good things in your mind, which will eventually lead to better things in your life.
2) Abandon negative people.
I cut ties with a few negative folks in my life and am all the more happier. It helps. Why be stagnant when we should be moving forward?
3) The harder you work at something the more you get out of it.
That’s a simple truth.
4) Care about your health because you only have one body.
I lost 50 pounds in 2014 due to a diabetes scare. It opened my eyes to a few very important things. We should all pay attention to our habits and stick to a goal. We should lose weight and exercise because we love our bodies not because we hate them.
5) Be yourself no matter what.
I will admit to a sort of crisis of personality during a lot of 2014 between who I was, am, and want to be. I got lost in a bit of a formula and woke up one morning to abandon that mentality in order to inject myself more into everything I do.
6) It doesn’t hurt to be open, loving, and kind. Cherish the people in your life that matter.
I wear my heart on my sleeve and tell people who matter that I love them whenever I feel like. Spread that around.
A badeep badeep badeep I guess that’s all folks. Those are my two cents and even if one person reading this got something from it – I would be a very happy camper.
Live Long and Prosper.
Check out my rate page for more info.
If you’re an actor, performer, or model you need to have photos to get your images across to your audience. Get some headshots NYC! In this day and age you need to show potential customers, clients, and connections that you are to be taken seriously and can project a magnetic appearance that will visually win over anyone AND get your foot in the door to expanding your career. A great photo shows that you are serious about your brand. You will see the difference one photo makes almost immediately, whether it’s on your company website, LinkedIn profile, Facebook Page, Twitter page, or in the hands of a casting agent.
You can use the contact form below to inquire about a booking. Book your headshots NYC and look forward to some great images that you can use for a variety of things!
Thanks for visiting. This page is dedicated to your headshots. Headshots NYC are one of my specialties and I’m constantly evolving my technique to ensure that you look your best and that you have photos you can be proud of. I have worked with many domestic and international cbrands and bring a varied skill set to the table. I cover a wide array of headshot styles and would be able to meet your needs if you have a specific request. I also encourage you to take a look around my site and see some of the various projects I have worked on.